Me and this guy have been kinda talking for the passed few weeks and hanging out. We have messed around alittle but Haven't had sex. The problem is that his 21st birthday party is this weekend and I know he is going to try but we aren't like dating right now. I really like him ( somehow fallen head over heels for him) and would like something serious as in a relationship. So far things have been great between us, seems like a really sweet guy and wouldn't mind having sex but don't want him to think I'm easy or something and ruin chances of a relationship. So my question is what are your opinions on this and should I make him wait longer?
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I think you should definitely make him wait longer, especially if you're hoping to have a serious relationship with him. The cornerstone of any healthy relationship is the bond you have with each other, and if he truly likes you (or should I say, loves you) he will wait as long as you want him to wait. If not, then he doesn't like you for you are but for what you have to give - in this case, sexual pleasure.
I think that if he does try something, make it clear that you do not want to have sex right now, and tell him how you feel about him and about your desire to build a relationship, and assess his reaction. If he says he understands it and that he won't force you into doing anything you don't want to do, then he's a good guy and worthy of you and of a relationship. If he gets mad/freaks out/laughs, if he does something unpleasant, it's time to break it off. No matter how sweet he was in the past, that's not something a good guy would do.1