I am in a LDR and he stopped contacting me because "he is busy". He sent me a sms the other day saying He is thinking about me every day even if we didn't make a contact for a week. I responded in four hours :" I'm thinking about you too." I am really hurt and mad at this guy. His sister told me that he is planning to come and visit me in order to talk things over. I have to mention that I am still a virgin and he knows that there will be no benefits when he comes. So he is coming only to talk for sure. But he didn't give me the attention I need and he didn't show me I'm the only one. Stopping the talk and contact in a LDR because of the work doesn't sound much logical to me. So I don't know how to act around this stuff. Should I give him another chance? Should I act cold and cautious...? What would you do?
Should I act cold and cautious? What to do about this guy?
What Guys Said 1
Of course it's logical LDR = different time zones, well depending how Long that L is. And that means you can't.
Don't act anything, unless you know what you're doing, which you don't (you posted a question on gag) it generally backfires. Let him know what's up, then see his reaction, if it looks genuine carry on, if it's overcompensating or seems fake cut it off.
What Girls Said 1
i think you should be cautious, but not necessarily cold. be wary of what he says and his body language when you guys talk. while you can't expect him to show you the kind of attention like other relationships, still there should be a set understanding/standard when it comes to your interactions (eg two hours every night, every other night, etc). if there isn't one, then at least a better excuse than "im busy" should be offered. you haven't specified what exactly he's doing far away (studying,working,etc) so I'm hoping for the best and assuming that he's either working or studying, in which case he could genuinely be very busy. however, as I said earlier, there should have been standards set regarding your interactions. so, now that things are a little rough, be cautious when he comes, but don't be cold or distant from him. let him know the ldr has affected you, but don't pressure/harass him unless he acts immature towards your feelings. hope this helps :-)1
Select as Most Helpful Opinion?
You cannot undo this action. The opinion owner is going to be notified and earn 7 XPER points.