So, I really need advice about this guy (hence my post here). If you don't wanna read the whole story, just read the recap at the end, lol, thanks!
I met a guy a year ago, I felt like "lust at first sight", we had a connection, laughed, got along great, I wanted him the minute I saw him. Too bad the feeling wasn't mutual. Even worse is I fessed up and told him I was into him even though I didn't know him that well. So we drifted apart but after a while we became friends again and I never said another word about my feelings for him. Half a year ago he kissed me, I know it was just for fun since he never asked me out on a date or anything. He's really picky on the girls he dates and it takes a while for him to fall in love. I dated someone a couple of months back but that didn't work out. Last weekend I saw that crush again, and we both were a bit tipsy (except for me, I was a total drunk that night, not really proud of it but that's not the issue). I lost my friends and he lost his that night and we ended up in the bar together. A little bit flirting, teasing, talking "sexy", lol. Anyways, we kissed/teased kissed and he asked me to come over to his place to hug (I'm not that stupid, I know he didn't mean hugging) and I said no. The subject came to sex and he told me he wants to have sex with me.
Not a problem for me, but the problem is that I'm afraid that's all he wants. I really like this guy and although he never gave me reasons to think he's into me, I'm into him. But I said no to the home-invite Because I knew I'd feel used and bad about it later.
I know women can't manipulate men to make them fall in love with them (I'm no Miss Universe, but I don't look bad, I think I'm a fun person to hang out with and whathaveyou), but it's kinda killing me that after a year he still shows no interest in me whatsoever, just the sexpart.
So if any of you have advice on how to "handle" this (little recap: I fancy a guy, would like a relationhip with him, he's very picky on his girlfriend, doesn't fall in love easily, tells me I'm too hard to get sometimes, but he doesn't text me himself to hang out, all he probably wants is sex)?
Ps: I know I sound kinda pathetic right now, lol.
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stay clear until he makes some effort with you, don't act on your emotions alone, or your going to end up used, so what until he is ready to make an effort towards you, he needs to show you he's worthy of your talents, not you proving to him,x1