I was out with some female friends and my being single at 49 came up. I got grilled on what I was looking for in a relationship, and what I considered deal breakers.
One of the deal breakers I have, is a women with young kids or live at home children. I got an earful about this. from I had to high standards, to I was selfish.
I was having a good laugh to myself over this, as the women grilling me have all had issues with dating men with kids.
Why is it okay for a woman to not date men with kids, have high standard and not settle ( what ever that means). But when a man says he does not date women with kids, has things he wants in a female and is not going to settle for less. He is called selfish, and basically an bad Bastard?
I was asking this question, not because I was having dating problems. But because I wanted to know how a woman with kids, can say she is not going to date a man with kids and this be acceptable. But when a man that does not have kids, says he does not date women with kids. He is selfish
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They're just being defensive because the truth is that this generation of over sexed, promiscuous women has lead to unplanned pregnancies that usually result in single mothers. Many women want to be promiscuous and to be blunt, get lots of penis, but they don't want to get the backlash of being called a skank or of becoming less desirable to some men once they have a child.
I completely agree with you. I don't think it's fair for a guy to have to take on a father role to the child of a woman he's dating when things may not even work out. Most females, sooner or later, will expect financial help and they'll be looking for for a father figure for their child. It's only natural. They usually feel like a**holes about choosing such a poor quality male to get impregnated by because he left their child with a bad image for a father. So it's natural for them to look for replacement father figures. It's a lot of pressure and responsibility to put on someone when that's not even their seed and I don't think it's fair. I'd be so frustrated if I was a guy and I was trying to date in this day and age with all of these single mothers.
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