Okay, so my girlfriend pressured me into allowing her to socially drink. Which is something I usually don't like.. She used to be a very bad drinker/partyer. Which adds to why I wouldn't allow her. I did cave in though because she said I was being controlling. Ever since then though, her attitude has started to decline. She started to get a little meaner, took longer to reply to texts, sent less smilies, etc. Well, today she took at least an hour to reply to every text I sent and I usually got a one word reply. I was cool with it whenever she gave me a reason; job hunting, Only later did I find out that she did more than job hunting.. Went car hunting with her friend, met some of her old guy friends at a restaurant and stuff. That only bothered me because she didn't tell me.. Then she called me creepy and obsessive.. Which isn't normal for her to be that harsh. I then called her later at night to tell her goodnight and stuff. I eventually got around to asking her if we were still down with hanging out; she had to cancel these plans as well because she was going to get her hair done and stay the night with her alcoholic of a friend.. Which made me nervous.. I then asked about Thursday and she told me it would have to be in the evening because she was going to sleep in till 3.. Which further alarmed me.. Especially when she said all they were doing at her friends was sleep.. Can someone please tell me I need to relax? Or do I legitly have a reason to freak out and get a little paranoid..
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I think you are freaking out, but you have good intentions. You just don't want your girlfriend to fall back into being the hard partier/drinker as it scares you which is reasonable - you're only looking out for her. Another thing is that her attitude has changed, she is not doing what you're used to when she's with you she's almost falling back into who she used to be or so it seems.
So I think it is fine to worry or be a little paranoid I know I would if my boyfriend started to change his tune and have a completely different attitude towards me. You only care about her and are trying to figure out why there is a sudden change.
What I think you need to do is have a talk with her, ask her what's up. You need to be calm when discussing with her, not angry as really that doesn't solve anything.
Maybe she thinks you see too much of her and just wants space/Maybe there is some underlying serious problem she hasn't told you about. You know it could be anything, you won't know until you talk to her. But seeing as you can't really talk to her right now, she keeps pushing you away, I think to just give her space and either come back to her in a few days or wait until she comes back to you.1