I like a guy at work and he has really led me on, for reasons beyond my understanding. We are both 30 and have a pretty serious job (in a law firm). After weeks of flirting he finally asked me out and I was really happy we were moving forward since obviously I liked him, tremendously. But that was only to come the next day and have my intern happily confide in me that he had finally asked her for her number + a date (I knew she had a crush on him, never in a million years did I think she'd be his type). My blood was boiling. I don't need advice on what to do. I'm done with him. He knows I know about them and I'm sure he can tell I'm hurt. My problem is even though I ignore him, he continues to try to talk to me. I don't feel like being friendly to him, I don't feel like speaking to him AT ALL. Unfortunatelly, I have to see him all day long. Surprisingly we don't need to speak! (I have my cases, he has his). I want to tell him to just stop speaking to me (very doable, reapeat- it's a busy place, no one will notice, because we don't have to interact and everyone minds their own bussiness there). I just don't want to sound childish, regret it and end up with my ego further bruised. Any ideas how to tell him?
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no. this doesn't warrant a sexual harassment charge, as some have suggested, because initially you were fully on board. And there is no way you can maturely tell someone in a professional setting, "Please don't talk to me, I really liked you, but you hurt my feelings by asking me and my intern out." He may even start spreading rumors that you're the whiny gal that liked him so much you had have a dramatic one on one relationship talk. No, don't sabotage your career.
No, this is a time for you to put on the real professional wax. Answer him curtly, short answers, yes/no and I don't know answers. Be professional, don't get vindictive with him or jealous and petty with your intern. Its time to be a professional. Put your feelings aside and do your job. Get your anger and hurt out on your own time. Take a kickboxing or boxing class, yoga, cry a little, call a few names. But at work, button it up.
These things happened. So he was a deutsche. At least you know now before 3 mos into a relationship and he's also sleeping with your intern and the receptionist. he will eventually get that you don't want a conversation when you don't make any with him and provide him short yes no answers.