My friend had just lost his father, he had to leave the state to take care of his fathers estate. when he came back he told us about his week and all the troubles he had to go thur. he was talking to me and his girlfriend, his mom came home and she joined in on the convo and as my friend told a story about how he found a photo of him and his father he started to tear up and cry a little him and his mom both teared up and there voices cracked. later his girlfriend and I where talking and she basically said she feels his less of a man for crying in front of her. I was shocked I didn't know how to respawned I wanted to slap this sh*t outta this bitch but held back, didn't need anymore drama in that moment. it's not like he was sobbing but even if he was his father just died. is she just a bitch or do women really think like this?
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I don't think that way at all.
If my boyfriend is going through something like that, he has every right to cry. I've been with my boyfriend for three months and he has cried once in front of me. It was when he was telling me a story about his brother and how much he missed him when he was away (they were separated for a year and are really close).
I didn't think it made him less of a man at all. I thought it was sweet that he was comfortable enough to open up to me about it. He is kinda a "tough guy" and was embarrassed about it, but I actually found it very attractive to see his soft side.
Especially with something so tragic as the loss of a father - there is absolutely NO reason he shouldn't cry. I know I don't know this woman, but I agree with you that she sounds like a bitch.
I think some women can't handle men crying because it puts us in the role of "comforter", whereas women are used to being comforted by their men. I think it is healthy to have to switch roles sometimes. If she lost someone she loved, she would need the support of her boyfriend, and she should be stepping up and supporting him all the same. Instead of insulting him, she should be comforting him, even something so small as touching his shoulder to let him know that it's okay to cry, and that she is there for him through this time.0