We met a month ago. The following weekend he invited me to a party. I came, he wasn't very attentive to me. Gave me a handshake goodbye. Since we met he texts me a lot. I'm talking hundreds of texts a day. We talk about 5 days a week. Our conversations get flirty sometimes, but nothing extremely sexual. I invited him to a party last weekend but I only got a "maybe, I'll see how the weekend goes". Things ended up not working out. Every thing I've invited him to he says "maybe, work is crazy". Is his job and personal schedule really that busy? I'm not sure how much longer I can go without actually being on a date. Am I just a backup? I hear through the mutual friends that he's interested. Could a guy texting me that much really be uninterested? Help! Do I stop texting him?
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You're the back up girl. He likes you. But he isn't attracted to you. There isn't much of a chase. He has other girls he is more interested in. He has the great friendship emotional relationship with you...has the other girls for the physical and hanging out.
I am just quoting what things were said to me lol. I was in a similar situation that began in June and recently ended in me being friend zoned and then no contacted because I apparently liked him way more than me. He apparently just wanted me around for everything but an actual girlfriend.
We sent over 6000 texts, 20plus hours on the phone and hung out. It was a crazy connection I might not ever find again. And he initiated 90% of our convos if there was ever a break in them, which was not often. Even up to the last day we spoke, when he said we shouldn't talk anymore.
Slow it down. Control your feelings and breathe. If you find that you DO like him. Think about what's more important to you, the friendship (which could grow into something later) or you REALLY wanting to be with him. If I had the chance to change what happened that is what I would have done. I wouldn't have scared my best friend off, yes in a short amount of time, I really view him as a soul mate best friend type. I would still have him in my life. And I wouldn't be a train wreck because I miss him so much. BUT if you cannot be friends with him or fathom him hanging with out girls or talking to you about other girls. Tell him your feelings and if he doesn't feel the same. Do not be the fool like I was and continue to push for more. Get out of the situation, fast. It is heartbreaking. I continued talking to him thinking that it was going to make him change his mind which he DID say he might regret it later. But...again I think that because we got so close so fast, I was basically automatically put there.
Of course, your situation might be completely different. I hope that helps a little though.
Praying you have better luck than me!1