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I'm from a very old fashioned southern family. That being said, in the beginning the guy pays... Always period end of story. It's the chivalrous thing to do.
Further a long in the relationship, especially at 5 years, I mean at that point your financials are almost kind of tied together, things can be split.
I still prefer to pay for dates in long term relationships, but sometimes it's nice if she offers to pay for coffee or something. All too often girls come to expect to be paid for which I don't think is right. In offering to pay every now and then it reassures us that it is appreciated that we do pay and not just expected.
Sometimes what I like to do if the girl has a decent sense of humor. A lot of the time females will start reaching for their purse to make it look like they intend to pay, but expecting the guy to say something. I will just sit there and watch her reach for her purse and laugh awkwardly as she freezes upon me not saying anything.
Either way he should pay in my opinion.2THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE