Maybe you learned something about yourself or something you want to avoid or something about people and life?
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I learned a lot. At 21 this is the first relationship (my other boyfriends I was 18 or younger) where I learned the most and was mature enough to walk away with lessons despite us not being "official".
My last relationship was casual but to me it counts, we went out together for a few months and talked all the time, kissed and held hands, acted coupley. It just was not exclusive.
1) The biggest thing I learned is honest communication.
I am the type who is not good at admitting my emotions and putting my feelings on the line, I often keep them bottled in, especially when I am in a period of uncertainty with a guy, not knowing how much he likes me back.
In this relationship it hurt me a lot. Saying how I feel especially telling a guy how much I like him is scary to me if I am insecure he does not feel the same. In this case I held it all in and sacrified my emotional needs because I liked him too much to lose him. In many ways. When it came to our intentions in the relationship is the biggest one, or talking about other problems.
2) I also learned to put myself first when it comes to being treated right.
I didn't stand up for myself enough and he would put me down or disrespect me and I let him. He was a little intimidating. He made me feel like I am a dumb submissive object and I am really not that person.
3) Do not overlook "bad signs" or "bad gut feelings", or a general lack of trust.
I have a pretty strong instinct and I caught him in a few lies and things he was very secretive about. Sometimes I just got this sense that something was wrong and I felt that I couldn't really trust him. I overlooked it for a while because I really liked him and the attraction and excitement level was so high but in the end it just built up to the point that I freaked out and had to walk away. I just felt unsafe. If there are red flags or you get a sense that something about the person is wrong, don't ignore it! There could even be potential danger lurking, you never know.
4) If you feel you have to hide the relationship/this person or none of your parents and or friends would approve it is for a reason!
Some people have high standards but as one of my friends said if you are slightly ashamed or feel you do not want people to know about the person or meet him there is a reason, if you have to hide him...well that's a problem, you should want people to meet him and know about him.
5) You should become part of each others' lives..if it's been a few months and you haven't met anyone AND seen his place it's a problem, there's someone else or he's embarrassed by you/only wants sex
6) One lie about himself unfolds many others, especially early on
If you catch him in a lie about himself early on, before he even knows you (unless it is something really tiny), especially if he lied very smoothly, there is probably a lot more he is hiding.
7) Red flag. you know he has Facebook and makes up some excuse why he can't add you, big problem.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE