last night I took a hot chic out and made her pick up the bill for both of us. she makes way more money than me.
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Well, even though I understand your train of thought and your financial concerns, I don't agree with your decision.
In my opinion, security is very important. I am not talking about security in a financial way either, I am talking about a willingness to protect and take care of her. If she feels that your best interests are not coming from a point of view of looking out for her, she isn't going to be interested in taking things much further. You might not be able to see how these relate to each other, but a willingness is a gesture of caring, and thought...it's a principle.
Another thing is just because she makes more money, she should make the decision to pay because she wants to and is more likely to if she feels that you are genuine and cares for you in response. She shouldn't have to just because she you brought it to her attention and she felt she couldn't refuse. Besides, if you put her as your first concern instead of yourself, she will almost definitely put you as her first concern in response. It takes effort though...!
I know this is the 21st century and I am talking old fashioned, but how a woman feels when it comes to being protected and genuinely cared for is not old fashioned. We will always want that whether we are independent or not. Genuiness and the principle of things is not overrated!1