I met a guy last January. He is 11 years younger than me. He asked me out. I told him no once I found out how young he was. He tried for three weeks to get me to go out with him. Eventually, he stopped trying.
We both got on with our lives. Randomly out of the blue he started texting me again. This time I agreed to meet him and said only as a friend. We met up and I am very attracted to him. He asked me out again. Second date, we spent the whole day and evening together. I really wanted him to kiss me and finally brought it up. Of course he mentioned that I said we were only friends and he thought that was off limits (but that he has wanted to kiss me since the first time he saw me).
We spent another date together, this time at my place watching a movie. Of course he started kissing me etc. He told me he has a "friend" coming into to town for three weeks. He said a girl and her brother. WELL I knew exactly who it was because he has pictures of her and her brother with him on his facebook. He met her when he was traveling. He spent a month of his time with her. She is a little younger than him and very pretty. By the pictures and comments it seems they both liked each other very much.
She is coming on Monday. He and I have a date planned for this weekend. He is taking me to the coast for the weekend. I wasn't sure what to say to him about this girl. He met her before he and I started going out. Yes, he tried to have sex with me on the third date, but I didn't want to (well I really wanted to) because he has this girl coming.
He says he will be spending the whole three weeks completely with her, taking her all over, showing her things and traveling a bit. I realize they met before we started going out and made these plans well before.
He says I should be patient because she will be gone and that will be it with her. He says they can't have anything because she lives in another country.
At the same time, three weeks with someone, doing fun things, spending all your time and money on them.. and he already likes her.. sucks for me..(ruins the start of what we could have-- if he even wants anything with me)-- when she leaves he will be sad and only thinking of her. He jokingly said, well then I will have to come crying to your arms (what ever).
There isn't anything I can do. I told him I wasn't going to wait around for him. I was going to go out with others and he said OK (but that he hopes my dates don't go well so when she leaves we can be together again).
I want to go spend time with him this weekend and just have fun and not think about her. It will be the last time I see him for three weeks though. I also really want to "be" with him (hard to resist) but I also don't want it to seem like I am just doing it because she is coming. I am torn. I want things to progress naturally, but this "thing" is in the way. What are your ideas?
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He's playing both ends against the middle.
You'll never be sure whether he's only with you.
If he's doing this to the other girl, you can imagine what's in store for you.
Don't believe the "it's over." "It's over" because it's convenient for it to be over to win you.
He hopes your dates don't go well. What a crock of manipulation.
When I re-read your question, he comes out worse with every reading.
Now, there may be other facets to this that aren't in the question; I'm going on what is in the question.0
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