I have been thinking a lot about you, and am beginning to feel like I have become an obstacle in your life. I never wanted that to happen. Maybe I was being selfish for not wanting to let go of you, but I was honestly trying to make the relationship work, with hopes of moving it toward marriage. It is not like I have never thought about spending my life with you and your daughter. I just can't force myself into marriage. I am to afraid to move out of my comfort zone and take a that chance. It should feel right and natural. I had hoped that over time it would. You clearly are not happy with the lack of progress in our relationship. I want you to have the relationship that you want with a man, and I clearly am not able to give you that. I would stop contacting you if I must, but it will not be easy, for I think about you all the time, and it saddens me to know that you will not be there for me. There will be a big hole in my life without you in it. You should feel free to create the relationships that you desire, it is only fair because I cannot give you the committment you desire
"I don't really know what to say. I care about you so much. You have challenged me in ways that no other person has. You have a great determination to get what you want. As you know, I am very indecisive. I do not like to make decisions. My life just happens. It is created by commitments that I make to relationships and to my values. We both have been very committed to our relationship, yet we are so very different".
I know that life is about change and people change but what in the world actually happened? I am still wondering ,did I do the right thing by asking him not to contact me again? Maybe I was rushing something that I should have waited a while longer for. It sounds like he loves me but he never even wrote it out...
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I don't know about marriage, but if you really love him, you should stay and if the love is enough, it will eventually prevail. Another thing you need to ask yourself though is if he is still in love with you, make sure he isn't just trying to let you go easily. If you know that he is still in love with you and you know that you are still in love with him then stay, one day he is going to realize that he can live without either you or your daughter, if he decides to marry you then will be his choice.0
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