We've had an unlabeled 'thing' for a while now. We would date if we lived near each other, but we don't. We got into a bit of an argument last night. I said something about how some girl is gonna snatch him up, and he replied with "actually, my friend is setting me up with some girl." I said I wasn't happy about it, and he said he wasn't either because he wasn't sure if he wanted a girlfriend now. I don't know if it was because of me or anything. I said I'd be upset if he started dating and he said "sorry. Life moves on though." At that point I lost it. I asked him why he would say that because he knew it would rattle me. by the way, we can actually date in less than a year. I know he doesn't owe me anything but couldn't he be more considerate to my feelings? he'd freak out if I started dating.
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He was being realistic, which is good, but he wasn't handling it in a way that was sensitive to your feelings, which is bad.
LDRs don't work, and given that you can't be together, you shouldn't pretend that either of you owes each other anything. You are both single and free to date as you like. And if you are both single 9 months from now, and want to date each other, then have at it.
You want to have your cake and eat it too, and you can't. I realize that hurts your feelings, but that isn't his fault. He should have just found a kinder way to talk about it with you.1