I always hear women either online or just walking on campus talking about the legendary nice guy, and how they can never seem to find one.
I'm one! I've been searching online for almost two years now and offline for about the same for a women who can appreciate me for me, but to no avail. What gives? While biased, many of my women-friends have expressed that I'm a nice guy and that a girl would be lucky to have me, blah blah. You get it.
I've been in two very long relationships, both ended against my will unfortunately. I can be clingy, this is something that I'm open to admit. I'm kind and caring, I love both giving and receiving attention. I'm incredibly understanding and laid back. Is this the problem? When I really think about it, in both of the relationships I had in the past we never argued. I mean that in the very literal sense, I can honestly not recall an argument.
Is it possible that I'm just too easy to get along with? Do women crave conflict, even if it is only minor?
Could someone help me out with some dating tips on talking to other women? I'm incredibly geeky and I'm kind of coming out of my shell finally... a bit late, but still. I don't care if women are into what I'm into, I'm fully aware that my hobbies are out of the norm and don't expect people to enjoy them themselves.
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My advice would be to combine your nice, caring nature with confidence and excitement. Flirt. Take initiative. Don't put girls you like on a pedestal, don't make them the most important thing in your life, but treat them well. Don't behave like you need their approval, behave (without being mean or stuck up) like they'd be lucky to have you. Don't be stiff. Be the kind of guy who takes charge, who can be dominant at times, women love the manly vibes such guys give off and it's not in contrast to being nice... And if all of that is just not you, be okay with whoever you really are. Good luck!