My girlfriend and I broke up last week. We only dated for 2 months but I was her first boyfriend, the first person she kissed and did anything sexual with (just not sex). I broke up with her through text sent her a message about how unhappy I was about the once a week text and rarely being able to see her. I said that we should only be friends for now until she wasn't so busy. she replied a few minutes later saying "really through text?" So I called her and talked to her and I regretted breaking up already. She started crying while I was trying to apologize and she told me to leave her the hell alone. And it went on for about 15 minutes with me trying to apologize and trying to tell her I didn't really want to break up. after the apology she said she didn't know what she was feeling, and then that she just needed some time to think. I know about all these no contact rules but sometimes that's really hard, but I called her that night and we talked and her voice was really sad and I told her that I was coming over to talk to her and to try and fix things no matter what she said and hopefully it wasn't to weird for me to do that (obviously that was a stupid statement in hindsight). She paused for a few seconds and then said yea its weird and I said I'm still coming and she said if I do that she won't see me and I said I'd wait and she started crying and saying that she just needed time to think, and that I just needed to leave her alone repeatedly. so I said OK just know I really care about you. So some days pass and I sent her a long apology (which I shouldn't of done) and no response. What I wanted to know is how fast does it take for a girl to get over someone if they were the girl in my the situation or not. And what should I do about her? And any thoughts that come to mind.
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Ok, breaking up through a text is a really big no no. But breaking up with her for the time being was probably a good idea. If the two of you had been dating a really long time or where really serious then it wouldv'e been OK to stay together, because the whole relationships take work thing. in my opinion you did the right thing. when people really like one another, they make time. They will find time no matter what to be with that person. This was her the first relationship, so everything is new to her, people always tend to go all in on their first, theyve never been hurt, and theyve never had to have someone else to care before. First, stop apologizing about breaking up, the only thing you should be sorry for is for doing it over a text. Just tell her that you will always care and be there for her. that's pretty much all you can do. Just make sure she knows why you did what you did, and that you care for her, then the rest is up to her. How long it will take for her to get over it all depends on her, and how she handles things. but beleive me when I say the world has a funny little way of makingg things work themselves out and getting us to where we need to be in life. If its not her, there is someone out there a million times better. beleive me there, I'm speaking from personal expirience. Good luck...
ps. if you decide you can't live without her... do something that will make her smile. women love cheesy stuff. flowers on doorstep type of stuff. doesn't have to be expensive or anything, you could do anything. hell write her a letter with this web address and let her read, that your serious..0