Can someone please help me and give me advice?
I've been told by a close friend that the other classmates think that I am cheating during tests and quizzes in class just because I have a higher grade them them. I always leave my phone inside my bag under my chair, and my classmates always sees me do this. I don't get why they are accusing me of cheating. I'm guessing it was because I have an iPhone.
Anyways, a few days ago, several minutes after a test and when everyone was talking, I decided to text my brother after getting the phone from my bag. I was on my way out to leave the room when the professor took my phone from me, more like roughly snatched it, and asked why I was cheating. She then proceeded to go to the front of the class and announced "I just caught someone cheating, and I've spoken to you all about honesty before. I do not believe you, Ms._________" I wouldn't have minded being pulled aside and talked to, but the fact that she openly accused me in front of everyone...
That was when everyone turned to me and gave me dirty looks. I tried to show her that it was a text message, and not the internet like she assumed. But when I tried to speak with her after the class and explain, she pretty much gave me the look 'Don't even f***ing talk to me, you are screwed'. Now I can't even enter the classroom without being stared at by the other students and feeling uncomfortable. When I feel everyone's stares I can already feel myself starting to cry. I have to enter with a friend and go everywhere with him as I don't want to be alone like I usually was before.
Because of all the looks I've been getting from other students, I want to transfer schools or go back to America (I'm studying in my parents' home country for college). I want to stay here and finish college as it is more affordable. But I've always felt like an outcast here and not genuinely accepted. Sometimes it felt like classmates were purposefully forgetting to email me the lectures from class.
Yes, I'm a college student and you're probably thinking I'm acting like a child about this. But please understand that I've only been here for a few months and I don't really know a lot of people here. Making friends for me is a very difficult process because of past experiences. And I'm in a completely different country with a culture very different from what I'm used to.
Its a small community (college campus) and word spreads like wild fire. And teachers here love to gossip, so my other professors are giving me dirty looks too.
Please, if you can, give me some advice at the moment, I'm so scared right now.
I think I would've been noticed by others if I did try to reach for my phone. Unless, you know, I had like a superpower to swiftly reach underneath my seat without having to bend over and grab my bag and magically fish out my phone in my disorganized bag without anyone noticing.
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If you know you were not cheating then others gossiping should not matter what so ever and let it all pass. If you did cheat then assume the fact you got caught. People misjudge others and when it is all a lie then you find strength in their stupidity and in you not letting their thoughts and bad actions towards you matter...because running away from people who misjudge you is giving power to others they have not earned and everyone needs to earn respect and offer it until proof is shown to the deception another has cause...so knowing no one here knows you nor would ever do something to cause trouble for you...be honest, did you cheat or are others wrong...0