my girlfriend has one particular guy friend I'm worried about. from what I know of him, not a close one as they don't see each other but just talk on texts..and its always him texting her and its someone she has known for longer time than me. thing is he will text her always late at night, say around 11pm which I firstly think is odd..like he's trying to only talk to her when she's alone and hoping I'm not there.
now I don't have a problem with her having any male friends but when the texts are coming in all the time I start to get paranoid. so I ended up reading the messages on her phone from him. most of them were OK, they he was trying to change the subject all the time to sex and saying he's holding his **** and thinking of her etc etc. now this got me fuming. luckily she didn't entertain this and just said , "o right that's nice" in her usual sarcastic way
now because she didn't react to this and reply with sex texts should I just leave it or should I kick off with him and tell him to back off as I know it happens and I know my girlfriend will now delete those texts from him as I've raised an issue before with a "friend" of hers who was getting to close.
what should I do, she hasn't done anything wrong but he has! ? help please
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the trust level has gone past the point. As she may turn the trust issue with her reading her texts, and down playing their interactions. GET THIS THROUGH to her because this is occuring often enough to bring up a concern for you she is allowing this to happen and feeding his emotional lover affair attempts. Regaurdless of her reaction towards him she is flirting back by not straightening him out and stopping the contact.
My experiances with this type of person is she will lean towards him when and if things go south with you two. Even a disagreement he will be there for her ready and waiting. You should not trust her if she has done this before and continues with another now... I don't care how long the situation and contact they had before was none of that matters if she is allowing this to continue..
One example of me being the other guy. I contacted an old girl friend started texting her she responded to some early texts about catching up and curious about what we are doing now... I continued to text her for alternative motives. She stopped responding to them and I got the message... There was no need for me to contact her
YOUR GIRL NEEDS TO STOP ALLOWING THIS ! it is wrong and hurtful and just plain selfish.0