-never dated, never really asked out
-I'm decent looking I think at least average, a little bit overweight but I have a thyroid condition so it makes me have a weight problem.
-I've tried so hard believe me putting myself out there after years of not really doing so.
-Have gotten rejected, rejected, rejected and even online. Once some guys I liked saw my pic and by the way they weren't super models either they stopped texting me or showing interest. I basically have to put in the effort even online to get a date.
This has impacted my grades in university. Now that I'm getting older all my friends are dating and tell me thing like" you know when a guy asks you out to dinner" and "I'm dating 5 guys casually right now" I get so depressed. I wonder what it feels like to have a guy you like ACTUALLY interested. I'm starting to accept that I might NEVER have this. So I need to earn a living and focus in school. I'm actually smart I want to go to grad school. Guys if ever in the future will just freak out about the no experience at all thing.
Can anyone else relate, or advice on how to literally stop crying about this?
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All I can tell you is: don't give up.
Get involved in group activities where single guys will be around. Be outgoing, friendly, look people in the eye, smile, laugh, and let them see you having a good time and being fun. That will instantly make you much more attractive to a guy. If you are shy, or you sit on the sidelines, people will ignore you. You have to get in the thick of things and be seen being friendly and fun.
And pay attention. If a guy is talking to you or giving you any extra attention, he's interested, and he's feeling you out to see if you are interested in him. You have to make it clear that you ARE interested, so he knows you probably won't reject him if he asks. If you're missing these opportunities because you don't respond, then you'll never get anywhere.
Last, be HONEST. Tell guys what you want, what you're looking for, and what your limits are. And make sure those things are realistic. If you're waiting for a popular, rich, good-looking guy who is always attentive and wants to get married in 2 years, you're setting the bar too high. The first guy you date probably won't end up being your husband. That's OKAY. You need some experience. Just make sure he's a decent guy and that he cares about you.0