I've got a dating track history that would bring a tear to a glass eye. Lol
Basically I have a couple of tendencies that seem to be causing a bad pattern. Basically I'm afraid to pursue women I am attracted to and have a tendency to fall in love quickly when a woman picks me up.
The only problem is that the women who have picked me up tend to be controlling or needy etc, but I'm stupid enough to fall in love with them anyway. It obviously goes badly from there!
Im just about divorced from a woman who used me pretty badly. I'm ready to date again and wondering how I stop myself from being so bloody stupid again?
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It's very hard to spot the wrong woman in the initial stages of dating, because it''s common practice that a person will show the best part of their personality and character when they're interested in you. Some will change the interests or answers to match yours, some will ignore habits that they don't agree with, so it's pretty much a wait and see game.
However, the are a few signs to look for to determine if she's clingy or controlling. Clingy women usually feel that they are not whole unless they're in a relationship or through another person. Their insecurity is likely due to failed relationships. Nonetheless, they are a few signs that one should look out for. Constantly questioning you, trying to intrude on every aspect of your life and needing to control it, and phoning you often throughout the day are potential signs that a woman may be clingy or controlling.
My suggestion, set the tone early by not being at a woman's beck and call, and making it clear that you have a another side of your life that you must keep. If she isn't clingy and controlling, then she'll won't have a an issue with accepting your other interests and will happily compromise.0