So my boyfriend and I are in bed sleeping and his phone goes off indicating he had a text message, it's about 12:15 a.m. He looks at the phone and the message says hi. I'm like ummm, who is that? He's like idk, they text before and when I called back it was an Indian guy. I didn't say anything but the longer I lay in bed the more I began to think. I'm like okay, you stayed away from me intimately for 3 weeks, you were distant, not really talking, now you start to come back around like everything is okay then your phone is going off in the middle of the night. I asked him if he could promise me that he didn't know who it was and he got pissed. He was getting loud and I'm like why are you yelling? I just asked a simple question. If my phone goes off, he's asking who it is and what do they want. I told him I only did what he would so why are you angry? My phone vibrates all night long because I receive emails and he said it could be a guy emailing me, I'm like are you kidding me!? He knows my lock code and can clearly see who it is if he so chose to. When I tried to show him my phone he slapped it out of my hand. He called me an a**hole, when I called him one back he says shut the f*** up! I'm like wow, really! He gets up and leaves. My thing is, I have reason to think something is or was going on. His behavior changed to drastically. Whenever he has a question he wants an answer but if I ask, he gets pissed like I'm wrong or something. I'm tired of the disrespect, normally I would've stopped him from leaving but I'm like wth, go if that's what you want! It's ridiculous... any suggestions?
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Wow this escalated way more than it needed to. If your boyfriend feels he has a right to ask who is calling you, I don't see what the problem is the other way around. It is called hypocrisy. Your boyfriend probably got so defensive because he didn't expect this from you and he is hiding something. I mean why else would someone blow something like this completely out of proportion?
When everything calms down...speak to him about this. You both have a lot of talking to do.
There is obviously a lot of distrust and insecurity issues that need to be sorted out before this relationship can improve.0