This is going to sound a little weird but here goes...
So I have been with this older guy without having my parents know. (I'm 18) we are not openly dating but he mostly catches me around more than having us meeting up.
I always preferred older guys (not too old! but like a 10-12 year gap) because boys around my age are so immature and act stupid. and I can barely engage in an intelligent conversation with them. I don't like boys, I never did. I only like men. (even since I was 13) it's just when I turned 18 I met him. (also the first guy I have been with. I never dated in high school, I always rejected the immature boys who asked)
the guy isn't generally considered 'handsome'. but I find him very attractive. he's not fat in any way (in fact a tiny bit bulked up) so he just doesn't have your typical handsome features. I just love his personality and experience. I have a thing for mature guys
we have been together for almost a year now. we haven't had sex. I might be keeping that for later on but there were these times where he'd feel me up under my skirt/ top(even though I'm a tiny A since I'm skinny :( but he said it was cute :p ), kissed...nothing too much.
But there was this one time (I felt really stupid doing it I know) when I invited him over to my house one night while my parents were out of town for a couple of days. he made me come that night but he never got naked. just played around with me. that night I felt really guilty and regret letting him go that far but I just find him so seducing and attractive.
Even though I am of age. I'm afraid to tell my parents about him. they might freak of the age gap but I'm 18! (even though I look much younger. some people said you look 14 :p)
So is it OK to be with him since I'm of age. and should I tell my parents? if they freak out should I leave him? >_<
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don't tell you aren't even in a relationship, how old is he?
if you aren't dating and you meet up casually it seems like he is just toying with you. I would try to make it real or move on. if you make it real tell your parents. if not, don't bother. I see why they would freak. I'm 21 when I was 20 I met a guy in his 30s and started dating him, in a way I liked it but people freaked out about the age and in hindsight I see why, he treated me like a puppet...older guys can be good but they are often manipulating you and not respecting you so I would be careful.0