We've been dating for a year now and the beginning of our relationship was amazing! He always told me he loved me and never wanted to loose me or let me go, he'd tell me how pretty I looked.
Now, he calls me stupid and clumbsy. Hardly says he loves me, maybe over text if I'm lucky. Never cuddles or pillow talks, just smash and go to sleep.
I feel no matter how long we've been dating he should still strive to give me those butterflys, not treat me like a bro with a vag.
what do I do? HELP!
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In the beginning of a relationship, we are all on our best behavior. We bring the best of ourselves and bring our A-game to hopefully have the person fall for us. Then when the relationship progresses who we really are comes forward. We aren't always on our best behavior anymore because we figure we've got that person hooked and they will stay. You fell for his a-game and now he feels he doesn't have to try anymore because you'll be there. Not everyone is like this though, that would be a generalization but I feel this is true in your case
You have a couple of things you can do. You can:
1) you could talk to him about this. Not in a needy way ex: "you never say you love me anymore! Why not!?!" That won't get you anywhere and will more than likely push him away. Try something like: "we have some really good times together. I really love when you do xyz, it makes me feel so hot/sexy/loved/etc." This frames the problem in a positive way and let's him know behavior that makes you happy. I would say most guys like to make their girls happy too.
2) accept him the way he is and accept the way things are because they may not change
3) break-up with him
Best of luck!1