To sum it up today I had to end a friendship with a girl(We're both 18 btw) because my feelings were too strong to only be a friend, and she is aware of my strong feelings but only likes me as a friend.
I gave her quite a lengthy speech on why I can't just handle it, but in addition to that I even said
"I rather not sit back and watch you date other guys and get hurt(She gets cheated on ALOT) while I wonder why you won't give me a shot to treat you right"
"I don't wanna sit back and watch you date other guys"
Yeah I said them both twice within the conversation, but my question is was that OK to say? Or can that come across as slightly rude? Because she could think I don't care about her to support her through those hard times as a friend... but on the other hand I would be in AGONY watching her date other guys... especially if they hurt her
- Ok to sayVote A
- Slightly rudeVote B
- Other (post what)Vote C
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As a girl who was in a situation like this, I can tell you that what you said probably hurt her. I had a close friend that had more than just feelings of friendship towards me, and I didn't feel the same. He told me time and again that I should just give him a chance and that it was ridiculous that I wouldn't date him. I would cry sometimes, because he was such a good friend and I wanted to see him happy, but I couldn't develop those feelings for him. I told him time and again that I would NOT lead him on by agreeing to go out with him, and he resented me for that I think... But you were a strong enough man to just walk away without whining and nagging her to go out with you. So yeah, what you said was harsh, but it was the truth and it will be better for both of you to not have to deal with the pain I'm sure you were both feeling.1