Hi, I am a pretty outgoing and sociable person and recently I have started dating this pretty nerdy guy and I find him totally amazing. I could care less how geeky he is. But my issue is that he works ALOT, pretty much around the clock and is a terrible communicator. Often ignores texts, does not return calls. This confuses me because when we are together he seems completely into me, in fact, I know he is. But given him communication I would have to think otherwise. He is not the type of guy to run around with multiple girls, he's actually the exact opposite. Any advice? How do you deal with a guy like this?
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It sounds as simple as you make it. He's really busy!
Now if the issue is that he's not spending enough time with you, then this is something to address.
But if you tell him that you expect him to text you and call you all the time, then he may be less than enthused, because you're essentially giving him a full-time job on top of the one he already has.
My guess is he's not much of a multi-tasker. He probably wants to schedule a certain portion of his week to be with you, and to focus just on you. Then he wants to spend the rest of the week focusing on his job. You can look at this one of two ways. You can either be flattered that he sees you as a distraction to his work and can't focus on both at the same time, or you can be jealous that he's not willing to devote every moment to you.
He also needs to be flexible, since this is a relationship. He can't just pigeonhole you into one crevice of his busy life without you being okay with it. At the same time, you should respect that he works a certain way, and might need fewer distractions when he's working. You don't want to come off as overly needy.
You two want to decide as a couple how much time to spend together, when to respond to texts and phone calls.0