I've been dating this guy for about a month now, he's a few years older than me so I don't know if this situation is normal as I'm not used to dating!
On all our dates we have a lot of fun, enjoy each others' company, he's always such a gentleman and asks lots of questions about my life, tells me about his etc.
Everything from the way he acts when we're together/ things he does/ says indicates to me that he's interested. I went to his place for our last date for a movie night and he cooked for me, and he showed up at the station to meet me and brought a couple of gifts for me (I thought that was so sweet as I wasn't expecting him to come and meet me). He's always so considerate, compliments me, and he's told his friends about me and mentioned me to his parents.
I spent the weekend at his from Friday night until Sunday morning when I had to leave, we just cuddled/ watched films all weekend. He drove me back to my place and even gave me a lift to where I had to be after that. I text him a few hours later to tell him I had a great time etc, he responded that evening, I replied Sunday night, but I haven't heard from him since!
We haven't slept together or done anything too risque, so it's not like I slept with him and he just lost interest or anything like that. He mentioned a friend of his was coming to town at some point this week and hasn't seen them in a few years so maybe that's what's keeping him busy; but I'm not used to not hearing from him for this long! He's not the best at contact between dates, he usually contacts me 1/2 times a day, last week he didn't speak to me on Thursday (presumably because he was stressed for a meeting he had on Friday) but then he called me straight after the meeting on Friday.
Is this lack of contact just a sign he's really not into me after all, or could he just be busy? Today will be the third day of no contact and it's annoying me not knowing what's going on - I just want to know where I stand! If a friend of mine was telling me this same story I'd think something had happened to put him off, but I can't think of anything that could have done that, we always have a great time together! Can someone please have a guess as to what's going on here? Should I just call him or leave it a couple more days?
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Yeah he's just busy. Guys are different than girls. We don't have this need to speak to you every day, because quite frankly it doesn't do anything for us.
They've actually proven this to be true. Women bond through communication. Hormones are actually released into the brain when girls converse. It's why girls always want to talk for hour with their BF's on the phone (exaggeration I know but you understand the stereotype I'm referring to).
Guys on the other hand don't have this reaction to conversation. Instead, those same hormones are released by physical touch and closeness. Guys bond by being near you, sitting with you, holding hands, cuddling, having sex. That's why guys who like you, always try to stand/sit near you, be in the same room, have sex with you, or even just touch you. It's our equivalent of having an hour long conversation. This is why guys can sit in a room, with you snuggled up against us, but do nothing but stare at a TV watching football. To us, we still feel that bond, even though you feel like we're ignoring you since we aren't talking.
This is just one of those things where men and women need to understand they are different and instead of forcing the other to conform to their needs, they need to compromise.
All this being said, give him some space or feel free to initiate the conversation (as long as you know he's not in the middle of something). He'll most likely have no problem texting you back, he's just not going to make the first move since texting isn't really a favored activity of men. 3 days also isn't super long. However, if a week or more went by, then that might be of some concern. I should also clarify that it still counts if he only texts you to hang out. Again, we dont' like to have conversations over the phone, we simply use it as a tool to arrange time in which we can be with you physically. So as long as he's voicing interest in seeing you again, then your in the clear, even if he's not having hour long text convos every day.1