First time reader and poster.
OK so here's my question. I met a guy 2 weeks ago on POF. I've only ever talked to guys on there never actually met any. I make my profile photo's realistic, there's nothing worse right?! Anyway I start chatting to this guy, some 15 - 20 short messages exchanged. I mentioned I was really busy with Uni at the moment, he asked if I had time for a drink. I gave a kind of half assed 'sure. why not' kind of answer. He didn't reply for 5 or so days. Then out of the blue got a reply and anyway we arranged for a date the next day.
It was seriously amazing (IMO!). We met, drank wine/beer, talked about everything, had a great connection, until the last possible minute. We got on so well. I said at one stage (while talking about something like child care costs etc) that oh this is a first date faux pas, he replied that he was enjoying it anyway. He was slightly surprised that I paid for every second drink - habit, not on purpose.
Anyway, as I said we talked for about 4 hours. We could have easily used the old work tomorrow morning excuse at any stage... He walked me to my bus. Take note: asked 'so when will I get to see you again' followed by telling me he was busy for the next two weekends (unavoidable commitments). Again, I gave a kind of 'sure thing' sort of answer (In my head I was like 'boo yah'). He put his arm around me and kissed me, pretty passionatly, for about 10 minute - I mean no coming up for air sort of kissing. My bus came along, he said, I'll be in touch.
I left it a day, sent a message to say thank you for the nice time, the hangover and left my number.
The date was Sun, I messaged Mon, today is Thurs and still nothing?
I mean it was a pretty perfect first date (IMO!).
My question is - in your reading of the above is he going to call? I know guys can be odd, but is it likely that he doesn't want a second date, didn't mean to kiss me (maybe after 10 min thought it was terrible?)?
By the way, he's an 8+. I'm a 5.
This is totally girl over analysing. I know. I'm sorry.
Also, just incase you think I'm completely mental, obviously if he does call I will play it cooooool! ;)
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Well, when a guy hangs out with a girl in a bar, he gets buzzed and they kiss, it's common that he just says "oh, that was an interesting experience" and he moves on. There's a chance he's talking to other women now.
Or he's interested in you and playing it cool, by artificially waiting to call. Because many guys fear if they call too soon, they'll come across as too desperate.
The best thing you can do right now is pretend he doesn't exist. If he calls in the next few days, awesome. If not, move on.0