So my ex girlfriend agreed to go out with me Saturday after much coercion. So I am taking her to the Zoo. She loves going there, so it will help with the pressure. We dated for 3 1/2 years and she left me over 2 weeks ago. It's been really hard, I tired to do no contact, but I couldn't I would end up texting her, or going to see her or whatever. I couldn't do it. My question is, what should I do for this date? I asked her to only commit to this Saturday, and commit to having fun. Should I bring her something when I pick her up? Should I try a little physical contact? maybe rub her back, or bump into her hand a few times? I'm so nervous I'll rush things that I'll push her away. She left me because I was clingy ( As you can tell), and I tried to keep her to myself. I also have a short temper, and I know I have to walk on egg shells for the date. I'm going to try and do everything we did when we first started dating. On the car ride there should I have songs playing about getting back together? Like really low on my CD player, just so if we stop talking, she can hear it. Any advice on what to do would be really helpful. Thanks everyone
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I know you are struggling to win her heart back but if you were together for 3 and 1/2 years then she might still love you and the only thing you have to do is be yourself. Be the person she fell in love with. Be the nice honest person she met :) I know it's hard to not be clingy needy and all of those bad things but if you want to save your relationship be kind and be yourself. Tell her you're changing your bad ways and bringing out the good ways. Tell her you love her and that you want to be wih her. She'll be with you if she loves you and she also has to understand that no one is perfect. Everyone has their flaws!
Lie a little on your date and enjoy it! don't cancel it because all that hard work of you texting and calling her would go down the drain. she is giving you a chance to show her the real you. But if she still doesn't want to be with you after showing her that you're changing for her then you should move on because no one should beg to be loved. You will be loved only if you love yourself. Good luck! Keep us updated :)0