Say you found out that a very good friend of yours--maybe even your best friend--wanted a romantic relationship with you, right? And this person had a great personality, is funny, smart, has similar interests, etc. BUT is very overweight--would you date him/her? Even if it meant potentially leading them on, or losing them as your friend? Or would you flat out say no and remain friends only, regardless of their emotions?
My friend is an amazing person and I consider him one of my closest friends ever, but I am not sure I'm attracted to him enough physically. And this is important, right? To feel attraction? And then I wondered, if he were in better shape, would I date him then? Maybe, but I just can't tell, and I have this feeling like I SHOULD date him simply because he's such a great guy. I'm so tired of dating the cute, 6'+ a-holes, as fun as they are in the beginning. What would you do?
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For me, being overweight is a deal-breaker. In most other respects, I'm not very fussy about looks. I just wouldn't find an overweight girl physically attractive, and physical attraction is the basis of any sexual relationship. Also, being overweight is unhealthy. I'd feel a little guilty giving (implicit) approval to her being overweight. The fact is, the vast majority of overweight people could control their weight, if they wanted to. If she didn't have the motivation and self-respect to do that, that would imply an unattractive personality too.
Ultimately, though, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If you don't find him attractive, I don't see how it can work. But, you shouldn't worry about what other people might think.0