I met this guy on a dating website, and slept with him on the second date. Unfortunately he wasn't looking for a relationship and wasn't interested in seeing me again so I haven't contacted him since. I then met his best mate through the same site and we arranged to meet. Before the date, he found out what had happened but gave me a chance to get to know me himself. We went on two dates and I believe we really hit it off, we did discuss what had happened on the 2nd date. He said he didn't think it was a big deal but that it was weird, but he wasn't sure if it was too weird but in time it shouldn't be an issue.
We talked about meeting again, but when I asked him about a meal I didn't hear from him for hours later, he text me saying "I don't know if I can hun your a lovely girl and I would have but you've been with my mate, weird don't you think?" I replied and explained it was a mistake and it was unfortunate I met him first, and that it was a couple of dates, not a relationship and if we like each other why not go on another date and see how it goes, we've got nothing to lose, but he hasn't replied. Will he change his mind or do you think it could be an excuse?
What should I do? Should I give him a couple of days and text him and ask if he's had any more thoughts about us, and say that he he gave me a chance and despite him knowing we had really good times together, I can't promise him it will be easy but but I think in time it would get easier and I want him to know that if he has doubts I am a faithful girl. I'd really like to see him again and if he wants to meet at the weekend let me know?
Is it worth trying? He's in the forces and if he thinks I jump into bed with everyone that quick he might feel I can't be trusted, but I am 100% faithful. Is there anything better I could say to him? Please help me.
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I think you said it very well here. If he can't get over it about his mate having been with you, it is better you don't see him again. Certainly sounds like you like him and if that is the case it would not hurt to carefully craft a letter with the salient points you put down here (that you are a faithful woman and you do not have feelings for his mate any longer after the way he treated you). If that does not work, move on. If it does work and he wants to see you again, proceed. :) Remember to be thoughtful as you work through it with him if he wants to see you again. Both of you will need to understand this relationship has nothing to do with his mate, okay?0