im 17, lately, I have had this huge crush on this girl, and I'm just wondering, if she would even like me, or wanna go out with me?
the kind of guy I am...
if I ever had a girlfriend, I'm the kindof guy that would want to listen to all her thoughts, and just... listen to evrything she wants to talk about. even feelings. I would respect her, and just want to always be there for her when she needed someone, I would hug her for hours, I would even watch a chick flick (I like romances myself), I'm a teddy bear (big, but loveable),my interest in a girl are not how 'hot' they are, or their 'boob size' or any of tht crap, all I care about is her personality, and if she is cute and adorable I guess, sadly... I can't handle being with a girl who is really fat...like REALLY fat that's the ONLY thing that would stop me, if ther a LITTLE bit overweight, thts absolutely fine. I'm not a 'playa' and I'm not a jock, I'm a bit of a geek, and I'm above average in the intelligence department, I legitimately like all kinds of music, love comedy, and I am a bit of a otaku (likes anime, and video games pretty much). my looks... can't say much I can't tell, I have been told I have a cute smile, and handsome, I'm a bit overweight, 20 kg... yea I know right I'm a hypocrite about the weight thing. but I've been on a major diet over the last 4 weeks, and changing my life around.
SOOOO... would you go out with a guy like me? don't be mean pls :)
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No I wouldn't go out with you, you're simply not my type. I'm assuming you want to know why so I'll write that:
1. You say you'd do all these things that you think a girl in general would want. Someone to listen to all her thought "even feelings." Hug her for hours, etc. Some girls don't want to be hugged for hours and some don't like having just a listener but maybe someone who would interject. I'm met a few guys who have said the same as you and they usually are expecting girls to fill their idea of what a girl wants, "respect, listening, romantic movies, etc" and when the girl doesn't want that and wants something else the guy doesn't know what to do, gets mad, etc. Every girl is different. I personally don't like romantic movies. My boyfriend, yeah he will hug me for hours but I like diversity in my life so I want to get up and do something. I don't want my guy to be the type to listen to any girl for hours just because he is like that. I want him to be kind to other girls but loves me and so will go an extra mile for me because he wants to. I have this sort of guy so I know its possible. He'll listen to any and is kind to all but goes the extra mile for me.
2. You can't handle being with a girl who is a bit fat but you're fat yourself. So you already know that is hypocritical so I won't cover that but also a lot of girls might feel the same. They might think, "why is he allowed to get fat but I'm not?" Also it can make a girl feel really insecure. I've always been pretty fit but recently went through a horrible tragedy in my family and thus gained 30 lbs. My boyfriend hasn't even said a word and acts the same around me. He is supporting and loving and I know he still finds me attractive. My weight doesn't show too much since it went to my butt but I'm secure because I know weight isn't a turn off for him. So I've been able to lose the weight without stress. He's always said he'd be more concerned about my health if I gained a large amount of weight rather than how attracted he was to me (because he said he'd always be). He once insisted I put back a certain ice cream and instead picked one out that was all natural and free of chemicals and other things that would hurt my health.
3. You seem to lack confidence. Confidence is big with both genders. So amp that up and you'll find the world opens up!
Some will disagree with me, some won't. A bunch of girls telling you thatd theyd date you isn't really going to help. You're confidence shouldn't be based on something like that so it won't even help your confidence.6