Would you date a friends ex, or would you let a friend date your ex?
I'm asking because I know a lot of people see it as an unwritten rule that you don't date friends exs, or even their crush. Whereas I have dated several of my friends ex, and they may have dated a few of mine. They don't seem to care and neither do I... So why is this such an issue for so many people? Jealousy?
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I don't have a set rule about this, I think it sort of depends on the situation. My general guideline is that if a good friend is not over their ex, then you have some respect and don't start dating that person, it's just not fair. You have to give it some time, you don't walk into a party with their ex the weekend after they broke up. But, if a decent amount of time has passed (a month or two) and they seem over it, I have no problem with it.
I had a friend date my ex- I think it was like 4 months after we broke up or something. It didn't bother me in the least, I was over him, so why not? I think my ex was more worried than I was- he's a good guy and he didn't want to screw up my friendship with his new girlfriend or make things weird for me.
I don't think I've ever dated a friend's ex, it just never really came up- I tend to see my friends' boyfriends as sort of "undatable" from the beginning, so it doesn't change once they break up.
I think the reason it'soften an issue is that if your friend isn't over their ex or they have some negative lingering feelings toward their ex, they see it as sort of traitorous for a friend to date the ex. For me, friends automatically come first so if there was any chance it bothered them then there's no way I'd date the guy. If they were OK with it, then I wouldn't have an issue.0