I'm trying to figure out the best way to apologize to my long distance boyfriend. We met up out of town two weekends ago. Things didn't go as planned. He did some things I didn't like and I completely melted down and lost it. The end result was texted him and told him not to contact me again. What he did was wrong but the response did not match the actions. I completely overreacted.
Couple days later, I sent an apology by text. Figured we need a few more days to cool down. In the text I told him that I was sorry, that I didn't mean what I said and that I would call him soon to talk.. A couple of days has passed and I'm about to call. Wondering how the call. Should I just apologize and bring up the incident? Should I just ask how he's doing and try not to focus on the incident? I want to restablish contact but I'm just not sure how to handle things.
Help me please! :)
- General conversation - don't bring up the incident unless he does.Vote A
- Apologize and try not to focus on the incident in the convo.Vote B
- Apologize and try to explain what happenned in detail.Vote C
- OtherVote D
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First, don't say it until you mean it. Nobody likes a fake apology. Second, make sure you're open to conversation, but don't explain if they don't want you to. It might make you feel better if you talk it out, but it might not make them feel better and the person who is getting apologized to gets the say on whether or not you talk about it or just forget it and move on.
After apologizing sincerely, I usually say something along the lines of, "I know you might not want to talk about it, but if you do then I promise to listen to everything you have to say and answer all of your questions openly and honestly." It sounds cheesy and it might not work but sometimes it's the thing that they have to hear in order to feel comfortable talking about how they feel.0