I want to know if me and this guy already are a couple, even though we never went for a date yet (we planned but due to some circumstances we couldn't meet). But we already exchanged picture and all and we like each other a lot, so he sort of took me as his girlfriend already, even though I keep saying I will let him know the answer after the 1st date. So if during the 1st date, things escalated quickly, is it too much if I give him a BJ? (we have a really high sexual tension between us)
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Despite what's often said about 'giving it up' too quickly, I really think that having sexual contact early won't drive a guy away.
I think some girls feel that they don't have much to offer other than sex, and therefore they have sex early in the relationship. But those girls would drive the guy away even if they never gave the guy sex. Many girls are confused on this point, and that's where the myth came from that a girl shouldn't give a guy sex too early.
In my opinion, if you have a lot to offer (such as personality, intelligence) not just sex, having sex with a guy early isn't going to drive him away. As I said, if you don't have a lot to offer, he'll get bored of you anyway.3