well I am trying to decide if I want to date someone online and determine if it is worth it? I have done long distance before but it didn't work out. Has anyone dated long distance before? What are somethings you can do to make it successful to where you can meet and make something of it? Do you think people lie about themselves online? I know one hard thing I could think of is you really don't know someone until you have known them for a few months and then they start showing you who they really are. does this apply to online as well or is their "A game" always working while you Skype or chat?
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It only works if both people want the same thing. I've done it and I'm working on it right now with a guy I met on POF. It's long distance at the moment. You have to have an end to the distance in sight. For us, the distance is 2 hours which is by now the maximum I consider (I've done 4 hours, it failed). I have the option of relocating anywhere come next spring (and I like his area, I'd move up there right now if I could). We're still just talking it all out, getting to know each other.
People do lie. But the few guys I've talked to, they were honest and so was I. I'm very straight-forward and up-front about what I want and who I am. I do not ever play games. I have no trouble moving from online to offline. I make sure that my words and actions match up. For example, I told the guy I could only concentrate on one guy at a time. I deleted my profile a few days later. I don't say anything that I would not say to him face to face.
If you do this, you have to know exactly what you want. You have to know where you are in life and where you want to go. One guy I talked to, he didn't know where he wanted to go, he didn't know what he wanted. I liked him, he liked me but we couldn't do anything because he didn't know what he wanted. Once you have that, the rest is easy. I had to wait 6 weeks to finally meet my current guy but it was so easy being with him when I finally did because we had discussed a lot of what we wanted in life and who we were in those 6 weeks. He is exactly who he said he was and he says the same about me (his only complaint is that he wasn't prepared for how pretty I am in person).0