There's so many people on here whining that the people they're in to won't give them a chance and they don't think that's fair.
Dating is to find someone to spend the rest of your life with and potentially start a family with. Why should we not be picky?!
Choosing someone for that is a MAJOR decision so I don't understand why so many people think that we should give anyone a chance simply because they want to be with us! Why shouldn't we have standards? Why shouldn't we want someone to be good looking if we have to look at them for the next 50 or so years!?
Why do people think their desire to date someone is more important than that person's desire not to date them?!
I'm not saying people should have a check list of things they want, I just don't see why they should be attacked and ridiculed for not wanting to date a particular person...
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Standards help set preferences, limitations as well as allowances on preferences. We all have them because it helps us to follow a path we hope will lead somewhat towards our goals. Socially it helps us identify, find and determine who is ideal for us based on our preferences, what we choose to concede to and what we determine is non negotiable.
I agree choosing a mate is a very important decision. Our mate will be a key factor in what course our life will follow. Making a wrong choice means taking a road of despair, dissatisfaction which means an unhappy life during the course of that relationship. Making a right decision will give us purpose, meaning and happiness.
The person's desire tends to take on a more selfish role at times. They see you and have determined "by their standards" that you would be ideal so they want for you to be accepting because they want you. They don't always stop to think if they would meet our standards. Even if they don't meet our standards and we reject them, its quite funny that they would want us to ignore our preferences and standards just so they can be happy in fulfilling theirs, even when they won't compromise or ignore their own.
Attraction should be mutual and even if you meet their standards while they don't meet yours, they should understand there are other prospects that will meet their standards who will feel a mutual attraction toward them.0