To make a long story short, I have a very rebellious, selfish, and immature little sister. We come from a culture where dating is not viewed as a good thing. I do feel my parents would be more likely to be okay with it if she introduced her boyfriend to them.. But instead she kept it a secret for over two years.
She has an attitude where she likes to show off that she can do whatever she likes. Her boyfriend is on the west coast for the summer and she decides to scream at my parents and tell them that she is going to visit him. So she bought a ticket and flew out to see him. The thing is she didn't tell any of us wen she was going.. She basically disappeared and we had no idea where she was.
We are 99 percent sure she is there and staying in the same room as him. It's taboo for a man and woman to do that before marriage on our culture.
My parents are worried sick. How can I help? What would you do? Or are we in the wrong for being too restrictive?
I think there is a mature way to date though.. For me I would introduce the guy to my family and date him while my parents knew about it. And definitely not fly across the country to see him without telling anyone. I think that's stupid behavior. Thoughts?
We don't force anything down her throat, not that I can see. We are a religious family and we let her be atheist. We didn't say that she must break up with the guy or anything, we know that she will do what she wants. My parents want to meet him but she won't bring him to the house
I called her immature and selfish not for dating, but for how she treats us. its not uncommon for her to call me a b**** or f****** moron in a public setting! She swears at my parents too.
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You call your sister rebellious, selfish and immature, when the problem is in fact that you guys try to force your culture down her throat, if you all would respect her choices of ditching her culture, she probably wouldn't have left without a word, and still had respect for your family, and wouldn't have had your parents worried, plus she would most likely have approached it all in more mature way.
I don't say this to sound rude, but please consider looking at it from her point of view. Culture isn't something your born into, but something you chooses yourself. Either way I wish you good luck sorting it out...0