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You know for a fact he's a lying, amoral user.
Your expectations of his behavior should be based on that.1
"[I've] been with this guy for over 5 years. He has this chick staying with him to keep his dream going."
^When I first read this, I thought that you're currently in a relationship with him, and he's off living with another woman.
"Just because he in a relationship he's pushing me away..."
^Then I read this. So you aren't in an official relationship with him, but he IS in an official relationship with this other woman...?
"I was only calling to hear about the surpise engagement ring he purchased me but he think I don't know"
Um...how do you know the ring is for you? Let's face it, you're not in a relationship with the guy and he bought an engagement ring? Men very rarely propose to women that they're not currently in a relationship with, and he's not in a relationship with you, but he IS in a relationship with someone else. The ring's probably for her. If he truly is the gold digger you make him out to be, wouldn't he want to marry the money train - to guarantee steady income for life?
He is definitely using someone...and that someone is you*. Your best bet is to break off contact with him, and get yourself in a real relationship!
*Fine, he's using the other woman too.
This is interesting.
This man bought you an engagement ring but he currently with another woman using her for funds. The behavior isn't indicative of guilt, no, fear, fear of being caught, yes, but is she onto him? Behind the scenes, something else, something looming in his mind, something beyond fear. Freedom? Entrapment? Stress? A secret something, a personal something.
It's too bad really; I think I could have been of service. Questions. Lots of questions.
I'm going to give you some solid advice here without judgment. I don't judge. I have a closet full of my own skeletons. Besides, you're an adult and you can make your own decisions.
You have provided an absolute world of information here. And all the answers you need you have given in your question. Ol' boy is on a money train, and he doesn't want that train derailed. But I'm going to guess you're giving it up in the bedroom, which means he's got the money train on one track and the, forgive my honest description, piece-on-the-side train on another track. So he's getting sex and money from his old lady and he's getting sex from you too.
Perfect scenario for him...as long as both trains don't end up on the same track. And that's the real game that is getting played here. He's getting you an engagement ring? Take a lesson from Marvin Gaye and "believe half of what you see and none of what you hear." Until that engagement ring is on your finger, that's just one more thing he is telling you to get you to keep putting out. He's stringing you along. And the reason he pushes you away is you're texting and calling all the time and he's afraid you're going to mess up that money train. He admitted that to you.
So take it for what it is. He's not going to leave her for you unless you become the money train. But even then, he's still getting to have sex with two women, which outweighs you being the money train.
My personal suggestion, move on and get you a decent man who isn't running game on you.
ok think of me as a friend, and I will tell you EXACTLY what I would tell my friends. For your own sake and to prevent any more heart break in the future, please just break up with him. He doesn't care about you, I'm a guy and I'm telling you this. I know you care about him, but you can't force someone else to care about you.
A lot more heartache is waiting if you don't do what you know you need to do.
lol typical person posting a question not being able to handle criticism get over it god you people piss me off royally when you just can't take anything anybody says on the internet you have to have a backbone good grief lady
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