I have started seeing this guy who relies solely on texting as our way of communication outside of seeing each other face to face. He told me he finds texting awkward so I asked him why he texts me then and he said, "Because it's easier than talking to you on the phone". I honestly don't know whether to feel flattered that he's texting me much since he hates it or to be annoyed that he won't make the effort to call.
I'm not really that bothered about talking on the phone, but sometimes he will start a conversation via text and then disappear for the rest of the day which is quite annoying. I don't text him to see where he disappeared to though and the next morning I will get a text saying hello etc. The thing is that if he doesn't hear back from me within something like 4 hours I get another text asking if I'm OK.
I really don't get this. He disappears for hours and hours at times, even when I've asked a question and I usually never get an answer but if I don't reply then it's like he thinks something's wrong. Can any guys or girls out there make sense of this behavior at all? I try not to take his texting habits personally but we don't see each other often and I hate that I have to wait until I see him to feel close to him again.
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That's just human nature actually. If a person seeks something they will pursue why they haven't gotten it. If a person is sought after they gauge the importance of things much differently. Think of it as being hungry versus being asked to make dinner.
Why he wants to act like this is curious. You should simply call him forcing him to make that time. His consistent refusal combined with his lazy behaviors make him a bad investment. Weak communication early is a strong predictor for troubled communication later.0
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