I started talking to a guy last Sunday and we hung out for the first time the following Saturday. We were texting for a few days, getting to know each other and suddenly (idk why, don't ask) I decided I wanted to just hookup on the weekend. I told him I wanted to have a one time hookup with him and he said he was fine with that. He came over for like half an hour and we just had sex (after like five minutes of obligatory talking). He left right after because I told him we only had an hour max before my roommate came over. We hugged goodbye and I texted him sometime after saying if he wanted to hangout in a real way some other time, we can. He didn't respond, but two hours later at 1am he accepted my FB friend request I had sent long before. In the morning when I saw I still had no response, I said, "Or not lol" and it's been forever and he still hasn't responded. I know he's at work until 7, so that could be it...but still he had the morning before.
My main question is: are all bets off for turning this around somehow (assuming he texts me back) and making me somehow girlfriend material in his eyes? I don't know if giving into my hormones was the end all be all of this.
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In my experience (25 years of having people come to me for relationship advice), 9 out of 10 guys who wanted a relationship would no longer respect and trust a girl who gave up sex before being in a relationship, and would no longer see her as relationship material. For guys who didn't want a relationship, that number is even worse, with nearly 10 out of 10 guys not respecting her as "girlfriend material". While that does leave some room for exceptions, the odds are very much against you.
ONS and FWB are fine if you want that and never, EVER expect to have a relationship with that guy, but if you think you might ever want a relationship with a guy, you simply MUST wait for sex until you get the relationship.3