I tried online dating using my pictures and someone else's pictures. I used the exact same profile and copied/pasted messages. Using my pictures and sending 250 messages I got 2 phone numbers, neither girl actually ever met me. Using the other guys pictures I got 3 phone numbers from within the first 20 messages.
Why does everyone seem convinced that it was my 'personality' and 'confidence issues' that prevented me from being successful? What brings them to this conclusion?
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I got more responses having a worse physique then the physique I have now. So two people can have two opposite experiences. Girls don't just look at physique and face. They look at other things too. There's a whole lot of gold diggers online. So if you used a picture of a guy in a tuxedo, they could think you have money too.
A lot of girls also feel that guys who look excellent have a high chance of being cocky which is a major turn off. So while girls may think the guy looks great, he can turn them off by glorifying himself way too much.
You may have gotten numbers, but I hope you don't full on catfish these girls. Your confidence and personality issues people are saying here come from the fact that you're constantly making topics on them. You're saying it's impossible to get a date, that you're unattractive(and that women hate unattractive men), that you're ugly, and so on. These are things you are saying to people on GAG. So if you're saying you are unattractive that that women hate unattractive people you're telling women to hate you.0