My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. He and I are pretty religious. So, he got this text message (my phone is messed up and sends delayed messages often.) This message seemed to be continuing a conversation that said (According to him) "there is still love on my side and I pray that it will continue. " OK, as it looks...it seems fishy. The message I meant to send to him, never actually sent, and sent this one before. He and I have been fighting off and on almost since we began dating. I don't remember to who and when the message was supposed to be sent. But I know that I've spoken to friends about how he is angry, maybe he doesn't love me anymore. So I believe the conversation was something like that. I was also offering condolences to a friend in the message. Now, he thinks I am cheating. Today I went to a funeral with a friend from church, and because I didn't call him right away, he accuses me of cheating on him with this guy. To make matters worse, without even thinking rationally, he says, he doesn't have to be committed in this relationship anymore, and he "doesn't know what will happen." He has lied to me about cheating on me before. He has girls waiting in the wings, willing to sleep with them, So when he is ready, he can pull from his reserves. Every relationship before me, he has cheated. I am the first woman he hasn't cheated on. He always accuses me of cheating. Even with people who are like brothers to me. I always encourage him to do the right thing. No other man has touched me, I do not say I love you to anyone except my boyfriend. I also don't pray for God to help the love between us remain except between MY boyfriend and I. I have to wake up in 2 hours. I work 12 hours every day. On top of it, yesterday, I had a funeral, so I'm even more tired that I usually am. He is never sympathetic. He always thinks in his mind things that don't line up. In his mind, I am always wrong, no matter what I am say. I understand the message looks fishy, but I have nothing to hide. I didn't cheat. And I've never cheated. He has. And even if he did...I would not feel the need to repay evil with evil and threaten him or do the same. I never threatened to go to another guy. I never told him I can find someone else. He has told me, there are girls better than you. My ex was more beautiful than you. I never said these things. I won't lower myself to that. If I am in a relationship I cannot commit to, why is that even a relationship in the first place? What should I do? What should I say now? Should I continue to try and convince him? Should I give him space?
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He's very controlling and this won't change except for the worse. If he isn't willing to admit he has a power and anger complex, then you should end things now before it gets worse!
He's very controlling and into having the power in the relationship. He takes advantage of you being accepting of this and trusting in God.
He will only get worse, as you are already seeing.
Time to end this before you invest more time and emotional energy! You need your freedom back, right away.