We were dating for 3 years, I'm 20 and she's 18
She broke up with me because, the long distance was hard, she felt that I didn't put the effort with her, that I was her first boyfriend and she felt stuck and met a another guy (1 month) ago, who honestly Isn't better than me in anyway.
But I honestly and she said I was the perfect boyfriend, taking her on the best dates and everything like that. I in fact was the one with the power as well.
What's happened so far is that she initially broke up with me, then I took some time to think and we talked about our issues & worked it out and we went on another date which I felt we were back to what we used to be and she seemed so happy.
Then the next week she broke up with me, and I tried to convince her out of it, but it was no use, she felt more for him than me and lost feelings for me.
I agree the long distance was hard, but now that she's going to college unlike in high school we will be able to see each other more often, and make it work
I don't know what to do to win her back, because I do agree that we should take some time apart and see what single life is like, but I can't deal with the fact that this other guy who broke us up will stay with her forever.
As I know she's the one, and I don't want to lose her
What do I do, How do I win her back?
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She has two types of needs. Emotional needs and physical needs. I recommend that you identify her most important needs and satisfy them. On the other hand, if she happens to be a person that often needs to be physically close to her partner to feel a emotional connection to be happy in a relationship, then perhaps the distance will hinder your ability to fulfill that need.
I'm sure you know it takes two to make a relationship work. That being said, she has to be willing to compromise, which may require her most essential needs to go unmet for a substantial amount of time. And if you are able to win her back but are currently unable to meet her needs, then you may be subjecting yourself to revisiting a identical problem with her in the near future.
Thoroughly think things over, and don't make a emotional based decision. The heart is not always correct. Many relationship have failed when they are forced, despite the love that exists in them. Besides, one should not rush to be let down.
Take your time, friend.