My grandfather died recently. Lex (the guy I like) texted me that night and said "Sorry about your pap" I said "Thanks, I am not doing too wel" He said "Come hang out and chillax" then I responded like 15 min later and said "Where are you? is there alcohol?" He didn't responded till like a half hour later and said "No. I am in bed now, gotta get up for class tomorrow" I was baffled and didn't know what to say or think. Then the next day he texts me and says "You good?" I said "No, I can't accept this harsh reality" He said "Look at it this way, that he is no longer suffering and he is peaceful now, don't get me wrong it sucks anytime when anyone dies, but at least he is in peace now, and he is not suffering anymore" I said "I don't know if he is in peace or not. I don't know what happens when you die. I can't live with myself and I can't live with the fact my grandfather is dead. I am living with so much regret" and he didn't text back.
He hasn't texted me but I just went through the layout and funeral, so I don't know if he just figures I will give her space? I don't know if he truly cares about me, or if he just doesn't know what to say? I am in this mode now where I want to talk to people and hang out with other people cause I don't want to think about my grandfather. So should I text him? or should I wait a couple of more days for him to text me? Also do you think he cares? Thanks everyone! :)
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I think he cares for you. he didn't say anything wrong. I think he was just caring for you probably didn't know what choice of words to use. also what he was saying was probably misunderstood because it was a text. id text him and thank him. tell him that you'd like him to be by your side.
now he isn't officially a boyfriend so id say his next reactions are a test of if he is worthy of being a boyfriend. if he can't find a way to be by your side during this time then id say he should be given up on as your grandfather deserves the respect that his grand daughter has a man who will stand by her and comfort her in her time of need.
I will say if he tries to get in your pants or anything like that anytime within the next week that he should also be kicked to the curb...you don't need to be taken advantage of but lots of hugs and support.1