I've been with this guy for a few years now, but recently he told me that his parents were cousins, or like second cousins or something. It's cousins anyway. I really don't think I can be with him anymore knowing that. I am worried about our future children and what they might be like. I don't understand why he is so smart and nice either. He is the smartest man I know, but yet he should be f***ed up. That's why I worry that we might have messed up kids.
I don't know if I should end it or not. What would you do? I still love him, but he is incest. I'm Christian. We look down on people like him. If my family ever found out, they would want me to end it.
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Okay, this question seriously hurts my heart! You fell in love with this guy, right? That means he must be a pretty amazing human being. Do you truly believe he deserves to be judged for the actions of his parents? You two could have an amazing future. I noticed you are truly shocked about his exceptional intelligence. This leads me to believe you may not have done a lot of genetic research on this subject. I strongly suggest you do so. The fact that you love him demands you find out all you can to assist you in making an educated decision. Since he's not f*cked up, what leads you to believe with your added gene pool, that if you have children, they will be f*cked up? And speaking of children, I promise you if you are lucky enough to have a child, you will love him/her/them with all of your heart. I have a child with a developmental disability (ASD) and he has enriched my life so deeply, I cannot begin to explain just how much God has blessed me with my little Boo's (nick-name) love! I'm assuming you have never had a child, and that is why you have these concerns. Trust me, you will fall in love with your child the moment you find out you are pregnant. I was an older mother when I found out I was pregnant. My OB GYN asked me if I wanted to have the test to determine if my baby had Down's Syndrome. I said absolutely not! It matters not. I will love my child regardless of anything thrown at me! As far as your parents go; To be honest, this issue is none of their business. You are an adult. You do not have to tell them anything, and especially not without your boyfriend's permission. And while I'm on that point, your boyfriend shared a very intimate part of his life with you. I'm sure he doesn't go around telling people about that little family detail. He obviously loves you too. I hope you let him know you appreciated him sharing such an intimate part of his life with you. He put his trust in your hands. It is your responsibility to do the right thing. You should love him for what he is, A unique part of God! He may have been a product of incest, but he is also a product of God. Weren't we taught to love ALL creatures of God? You know, I was raised in a very strict Catholic home. I was told sexual abuse is "When a man punches a woman in the boob". I kid you not! Word for word. We have a lot of people who form out values and beliefs. It is up to us to seek answers for ourselves rather than to follow blindly, that is why God gave us free will. Please use it and find your own way.0