i know it sounds silly but...
i went on two dates with this guy who I really hit it off with. he texted me pretty much all day every day and planned out dates until the end of the year. I was aware that he ended a 3 year relationship about 3 months ago, but I figured he was putting in way too much time and effort for me to be a rebound but I still knew there was a chance.
apparently his ex girlfriend found out he was dating me and showed up on the night before our second date begging to get back with him and trying to sleep with him. he told me this, and that I had nothing to worry about, she missed her chance that he had told her that she would want a good thing back and that he had told her there was no chance of them getting back together because he doesn't do second chances.
i accepted all of this and we had a great second date together. this morning he texted me as usual, but later this afternoon he texted me saying "i want to let you know that I had a wonderful time getting to know you better, but it turns out that I'm not ready to date someone right now. I thought that I was. I hope that you understand." I just replied that I understand and I hoped things work out for him and he said "thank you. you're wonderful :)"
i deleted his number on my phone to prevent myself from asking him "why" and what happened between this morning and this afternoon. I'm confused, hurt and upset, because last night on our date we even talked about the future plans we had made for an upcoming date and laughed and nothing went "wrong".
he hasn't deleted me on Facebook yet, and I don't want to delete him because, well to be honest I'm hoping he will come back and that if I delete him from Facebook then ill ruin that chance because he will take it as if I'm mad and don't want to hear from him again, when in reality I just don't want to see him move on with someone else or get back with his ex.
I'm not sure what to do or how to feel. people have said maybe his ex showing up confused him and that he will call or text back but I just don't see how a guy would go from "im not ready to date" to "ok let's date now".
what do I do? I'm so hurt by this and confused.
Most Helpful Girl
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! do not text him and do not send that vulnerable and humiliating clingy question. Don't do it. It makes you look desperate. He just basically broke off his contact with you after 2 dates. DELETE HIM. Leave it alone. I'll tell you why: men like to be the chasers and hunters initially for the most part. He is also dealing with other emotions with his ex GF. Just delete him and if he wants to find you he still can; just don't block him if you hope he might look you up. But let it go... and then wait and see.0