So this guy I've dated...well one date he keeps giving me hot and cold signs, texting me and asking me what my plans are and when I reply he doesn't text me back.. and just being very weird and its happened all week , he changed after our first date, before that he was writing me everyday ( met online)
so today he wrote me asked me what my plans for the weekend was and I replied ..didnt want to be rude or be drama, I don't have time for that
i am 21 and he is 28 so he should act like a man..he hasn't replied and its been 5 hours ..
so I wrote him on Facebook "hey! what is the purpouse of texting me when you have no intention of replying ^^" ?
is this childish or mature? will it show he can't play with me ?
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IMO, you both handled it poorly/immaturely.
The mature way to handle it was, after once or twice, to tell him: "Hey, I like talking to you, but it's rude to initiate texting someone, and then never respond to their replies. If you leave me hanging like that, I feel like you aren't really interested, which makes me not want to talk to you. So, what's up with that?"
Be honest and direct. Don't accuse or place blame, just tell him how (whatever it is) makes you feel, and what you will do as a result, and then give him an opportunity to explain and/or correct his behavior. If he continues to do that behavior, then you tell him "We talked about you doing (whatever it is), and you keep doing it, so until you are ready to change that, please stop contacting me." And then you move on and ASSUME he'll never get back to you. If he does, and he does the right things, then you can reconsider, but never count on that happening, and never put your life on hold hoping it does.0