He says things like his brother is happy to see he's happy because of me and his brother doesn't want to see him get hurt again. He's very emotionaly weak as a person he's very needy and depressed I do want to leave but worry how he will take it and also how his family will take it he's already attempted to kill himself over stuff in his life I know that's weak and I shouldn't have to feel responsible over it if he did but I couldn't help but feel terrible about it as I do care about him he's just a very sick man I also hate to know what his family would be like towards me they would blame me for it I've heard the way they have spoken about his ex girlfriends getting him in a state I know it would be the same story with me. ;( FML...
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No, not FML ... new mantra is YGAIMR ... that is, you're grown ass isn't my responsibility. You feel trapped and I can completely feel why. I feel very bad for you. He and his family have put a weight on your shoulders that isn't yours to carry. This man needs to work on himself. If he responds negatively to your leaving, that's on him. That's not on you. It's not your responsibility to be his babysitter or codependent anymore. You need to leave. This isn't healthy for you or for him. Here's what I think you should do ... I think you should leave ASAP but in a very openly verbal way.
Sit his family down & tell them that his emotional wellbeing is his responsibility, not yours. You can't be in a relationship with someone who is so copendent that they might hurt themselves solely because you left them. Tell them that that's not a responsibility you're going to carry nor is it something that you should carry.
After you talk with them, you tell him it's over. Don't sugarcoat it. Make it black and white. "You and I are not working. I don't want to be in this relationship anymore. We aren't going to be dating from this day forward .." Don't stick around for a conversation afterward. Just leave after that. Don't take any of his calls, change your number if you have too.
Reason I suggest you tell his family first is so that they are aware of the situation and can act accordingly. But don's sugarcoat anything. You have to be blunt. I have a feelings this guy you're seeing can be emotionally manipulative and will probably use all kinds of excuses to see you if he can find them. Don't allow for it.
Be firm & don't look back. It's not your burden to carry.4
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