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I met him on tinder a week ago. We've probably sent each other up to 1000 texts since. He always initiates contact in the morning and we message each other 2-3 txts at a time back and forth all day long, even at night time (he claims he wants to talk to me a little before going to sleep). He's a working professional, we're close in age and we've met in person last night. We were at a coffee shop and talked for 6 hours straight. He texted me to check that I got home alright.
It seems like things are going pretty fast. He seems to have gotten REALLY into me really fast, which worries me that he's phony on some level. He hasn't made any creepy physical moves. We just kissed after our neverending evening date and only one text out of the bjillion ones we exchanged was slightly racy. It alluded to "spicing things up". I denied this text, told him that I wasn't into that right now and that patience was a virtue - he didn't insist at all after that.
I'm wondering if he's faking it all and trying to fool me somehow, but on the other hand, he's making LOADS of effort that I don't think a player would make just for a potential slam piece... What do you think?
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Well I feel like I'm like him, an I'd like to think I'm a genuinely nice guy. I never tried to initiate sex early on, because I know girls don't like that usually. Some guys are just nice, we're not all sexual deviants trying to get into every girls pants.
To be honest, he sounds like a great guy. Don't over think things and be glad you found him. You don't know him, so chances are you'll find some issues with him down the line (no one is perfect), but it seems you're trying hard to look for issues, and you have to ask yourself why?
Anyways, don't stress. He doesn't sounds like a player. A player would be pushing for something more. If not right away, soon after. Players try to get into as many girls pants as fast as possible. He sounds like he's taking his time, and is trying to respect your wishes.
However he is a guy, which is why he wanted to spice things up. Clearly he's great if he toned it down after you wanted to take things slow.1
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