I recently joined a dating website and before messaging anyone, I asked some buddies and coworkers what they thought about online dating and their experience with it.
Of course I only asked guys and their responses were not encouraging at all. One of my buddies who is a fair looking guy, smart, and has very high self esteem, quit a long time ago because girls would not reply (the majority) or the conversations would last 2-3 words.
He could talk to anyone in person. But online he stood no chance.
I made a concentrated effort to find girls that I was attracted to and also had a lot of common interests. In terms of looks, I made sure they werent supermodel status so a guy like me could have a chance.
Girl one never replied and didn't view my profile.
Girl 2 viewed my profile and didn't reply. I'm disappointed because she seemed like the silly type, someone I could get along with. No reply pretty much burns any possibility of winning her over.
It appears that guys get the short stick, especially the ones who aren't great looking and/or don't make over 75K. Sure my evidence is anecdotal, but it still supports the idea that online dating is a waste of time for us.
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Try okcupid, and pof. I disagree with the salary thing,sure some women might go for that on dating websites, but not all. I use okcupid and women will initiate the conversation, and my salary is $0, and stated as unemployed.
For me what Iv'e noticed is,you just have to be genuine, ask them about their interests, comment on something she's wearing, yesterday I viewed a girls profile and she was wearing a gangar T shirt in one of her pics, so I commented on that, I was just polite and genuine, she messaged back and we talked about video games, and funny pokemon T's.
You don't post shirtless pics like all the men on dating websites, a lot of men do that, I don't do that, and Iv'e had women message me about being original they stated that as one of their reasons they thought so, I never flexed in any pictures either.
I have never actually met someone from a dating website, I have received numbers, but it's from girls 30-40 minutes away, and I never got around to visiting them, because I'm new to driving, and they live in busy cities, I have a small phobia of driving in big cities due to reckless driver's, assholes, and road rage.
The hardest thing is finding a girl in your town that fits your prerequisites. Mine are attraction, personality, has no children, she seems like a chill non dramatic person.
I'm rambling here, but I feel you, also keep in mind that if you look at the date they were last online,I started paying attention to the dates, and noticed MOST of them have not even been active! Which also leads me to agree with PANDAmonium's theory about '' The pick of the litter.'' Just make your profile interesting, no shirtless douche pics it doesn't impress most women, message women you think you would hit it off with, etc, I'm telling you the hardest thing is finding a woman in your town to fit your preferences.
You might even be messaging women who are only looking for friends, in kind of a flirty you're interesting way, which might be why they are replying, or something you wrong perhaps( Choose your words carefully.)
Women will message first, Iv'e noticed they usually view you a couple times before they finally message, why I personally think that is has to do with the fact that they're women, they probably expect you to message first I guess.
Yes I think below to average guys should bother with dating websites because, EVERYONE deserves to love, and be loved. There are average to below average women on these sites too!
I wouldn't take things personally from these sites stitch, a lot of these women have an idea of what kind of man they want before they even create that profile, just because you may not fit that specific woman's preferences, does not mean you don't fit anther woman's preferences.
Good luck Stitches, you just have to learn from trial and error like you learn anything else.
You may think you're average,below or whatever, but you're not on that site to date yourself, it's what the profile viewer thinks!
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